Imagine the most awkward day that you have had in your body…

You may have been motivated to start a new workout regime, or had a complete meltdown in the middle of the grocery store. Either way, that moment was defining. It motivated you in some way to either make the change you needed to, or it forced you to accept yourself exactly where you are.

Now, imagine that moment and take away your ability to do anything about it AND add raging hormones… You have yourself a pregnant woman.

The myriad of changes that your body goes through when you are pregnant are mostly beneath the surface. Early on you put on weight, feel sick all day, prefer sleep to any normal activity. You wait for the coveted ‘bump’ to arrive, and when it finally does you continue to put on weight, hopefully don’t feel as tired, but might cry at the drop of a hat.

While there is something extraordinarily impressive about a pregnant body (many things actually) it seems as though society isn’t really sure how to respond or treat a pregnant woman out in public. From a woman who has been pregnant twice and taught yoga to tons of pregnant students, here are some tips about what to say and how to behave around preggers in public.

1. Don’t forget that we are still women. Women are sensitive about our bodies even when we are not pregnant. I think its best to not even make a remark about her body.

2. If you ARE going to comment about her shape, size, or weight all you need to say is ‘you look great!’ Be authentic about it.

3. We love your excitement- but don’t be more excited than us. A simple ‘Congratulations!’ is all it takes.

4. Ask before you touch- if I wasn’t pregnant, you wouldn’t touch my belly. Well- its still my belly even though I am pregnant. Got it?

5. Your guesses about any of the details of my pregnancy are moot. Don’t guess if its a boy or girl, don’t guess how far along I am. If you want to know, ask… I MIGHT tell you.

6. Pregnancies are as different as the people who have them, so don’t assume that mine is like yours.

7. At any given moment we are doing our best to hold it together and not have a hormonal breakdown in regards to the changes our body- and our life- are taking on, so please don’t feel my pregnancy is an invitation for you to tell me how hard your pregnancy or L&D experience was. I have my own problems- swelling is a b%#&*